Decorum on a Forum
I have been reflecting on this topic for some time as I participate on this site. (I have been a member here since 2007.) Some activity over the last several months, and as of late, prompts me to express my feelings here in my blog
We are a diverse group and come here to participate for many different reasons - some out fear, some to confirm their sanity, others frustration with doctors, others to find support, and to ask questions. This IS the ONLY dedicated CPN support site. It was my lifeline when I was so very, very ill and still is one of the few places one can go to have comrades who understand what this process is about.
It should also a place where every member can feel comfortable in expressing their questions, thoughts and opinions (or differences of). We have many different levels of knowledge and experiences here, all of which add to the value and importance of this site.
Most of us can interpret when one is having a bad day, or possibly experiencing a Flagyl die off rage. J (And to the newbies, you will in time, LOL. ) We also can discern unacceptable, intentional behavior....
What I, and others, think should NOT be happening on a forum such is this is the taunting, ridiculing, posting of misinformation about, and public attacks to defame others. What I have witnessed here on occasion simply would not be tolerated on other forums. (And, yes, I have on occasion been guilty, but usually a defense mechanism -- no excuse)
This site is self-governing (so to speak) and technically we are not "policed"; BUT, not having a consequence for bad behavior isn't a freedom the majority enjoy when they have to endure the transgressions of a few, and because of it stop posting and/or sharing on the site.
There are others who feel the same and are frustrated in their attempts to divert or redirect incidences and their futile requests to the individual(s) to "take it private".
For thought (excerpted from another forum) :
"A good sign of a discussion going south is when a thread shifts from focusing on an issue to personal attack. We are dealing with volatile issues but knee-jerk personal responses can quickly send a discussion veering towards disaster with recriminations lasting long after the actual discussion ends; feelings are hurt, friends are no longer friends, and the forum ceases to be a safe place for all to engage in. Eventually the Forum becomes, if not dominated, at least tainted by overly aggressive individuals, and people with quieter voices flee to safer pastures. Please keep the focus on the facts of the topic at hand - not the person delivering it."
And here are that forum's posting behavioral expectations:
1. While we honor passionate and informed discussion we will not tolerate rudeness, insulting posts, personal attacks or purposeless inflammatory posts. Personal attacks include:
- o Attacking someone's character
- o Referring to members in a pejorative way
- o Referring to a treatment that works for someone in a pejorative way
- o Sarcasm intended to belittle someone's beliefs, treatment preferences, etc.
- o Questioning someone's medical status.
- o Critiques of individuals or organizations should be done in the spirit of constructive discourse; simply dumping on a person or organization is not conducive to the kind of conversation we strive for.
- o Wild conspiracy theories are not suitable subjects and posts with them will be pruned from the Forums.
- o Questioning whether someone is ‘a mole'. Discerning whether someone is a 'mole' is a slippery slope that we will not engage in or the other hand...
- o 'Trolls' - members who's chief goal appears to be to sow discord and persist in argumentative and divisive behavior will be warned, and, if necessary removed from the Forum.
- o Attacking people or groups based on race, age, gender, sexual orientation or religious beliefs.
- o It is not permitted to advocate, encourage or condone physical violence, threats of violence, or harassment against anyone, whether members of this forum or not."
Perhaps it's time............